I would try to talk her into going to MSU. I can't believe I just said that
Back to seriousness, I have to agree with ECHSUE, I got caught up working and going to school. I started off at MCC going full time, but started getting promoted at work. I gradually cut back my classes. I then went to Wayne and got another promotion. Nothing against WSU, but I absolutely hated it! It's not a good place to take classes at night and you get harrassed (SP?) by bums as soon as you walk out of a building. I decided I better get my sh!t together and finish school, so I transferred to U of M. I just got my BSE last April, it took me 10 years. I wish I would have just come here from the very start.
As far as scholarships and credits go, it really depends. I know U of M has some scholarships specifically for transfer students. I think most big schools have the same thing, but you should probably check on it for sure. You are also still eligible for federal grants and of course loans.
When I transferred here they accepted 83 of my credits. If she does end up going to another school with aspirations of transferring, make sure you/she makes a counseling appointment at the school she is going to AS WELL AS the school she wants to transfer to. Get the transfer credit sheets from both schools and compare them, but go off the one that you got from the school she wants to transfer to. I know MANY people that got burned because a counselor at the school they attended said something would transfer and it didn't. Make sure you keep those sheets in a safe place when you get them and get them at least once per year. That will give you something to show them if there are any disputes as to what they will accept. They have a tendency to change what they will accept also, that's why you should get a new one once a year.
I was/am real close with my parents as well. In all honesty, I think me moving to Ann Arbor brought us a little closer. It is a big step for an 18 year old though. Although I don't know either of you, I feel it is good to go away to college. There are some things you learn that just can't be taught when living at home and going to school. I know some people are going to interpret that in a bad way and that's not the type of learning I'm talking about!!
You may want to talk to Evil Shot Girl about going to Oakland, that's where she goes.
Just my $.02, I hope this helps some. I would be happy to talk with your daughter if she has any questions about going away to school.