first and foremost you should hire me as your dj!! haha, j/k, you BETTER have one by now!! but, make sure your dj is responsible for each part of the reception going off without a hitch.
wedding day/reception - pawn as much responsibility off on others. make up envelopes for everyone that has to be paid(priest/minister, photographer, videographer, dj/band, etc) and put someone in charge of handing them out. save the drinking till later in the evening. ya dont want a buzz early on that dies out and leaves ya with a headache. take in as much as possible and try to notice even the smallest details about the reception because it goes by wayyyyyyyyy too fast.
wedding night - dont tell ANYONE where youre spending it for fear of booby traps throughout the place.
rest of your lives - talk as much as possible about anything and everything, dont assume anything. if you ever get upset at your mate, put yourself in their shoes first and try to understand what he/she was thinking. compromise. dont go to bed mad.
this week is 10 years for me and chantel