[Adios]

OK,
Not to belittle anyone, especially single moms.
Look at it from a single man point of view.

Ok,
say there is this single mom of two girls, and you express intereste in her, and she does in you a bit.
Then you go ask her to lunch, then she says she is to busy for lunch, then you see her out picking up lunch....

Not that that make me mad, just makes me wonder.

1. She is a single mom of 2,
2. I am a single man no kids.
Now don't it seem that she may be more than what men are looking for? I mean she has 2 young children, and that being single, i have none. doesn't that kind of make me the better catch? I mean she has a different choice in men now, alot will not want anything to do with a woman, divorced with a child, let alone children (2-3, ect..)
Not to say there is anything bad at all about single moms, i know alot, and applaud them, and aknowledge their effort, and their parenting skills (you know who you women are

)
But getting back, what the heck is wrong with a woman, who really doesnt seem to realize.
I mean it is a burden on my self asteem right now, a woman with 2 children don't seem to be interested. i could go on, but,...i think you know what i am saying, asking....

 

[Kat]

Eddie, you said that you saw her pick up lunch
Was she at a fast food joint? Was she in the frive thru?
Maybe that's all that she had time for because she had other errands to run.
Why didn't you shoot for another day or time??

 

[Snowbi-Wan]

Must be a lesbian.

Seriously, maybe other guys have tried the same thing, she got close and then they bolted because the kids and all were too much for them.

Maybe she's just protecting herself and the kids from getting too attached to you?

 

[cotty]

Eddie,

Have you tried asking her a second time?

She could be just one of those people that like to have lunch by themselves and relax from the work day. Now if she turns you down again then I would think she wasn't interested.

just my .02

Cotty

 

[Goose]

her priorities are her kids

your priorities are getting laid

she will never have the same priorities as you

and eddie

YOU ARE A CATCH

 

[pirlgirl]

I'd have to think, she doesn't know your sincere about her mother/home situation.
Give her another chance in a week. On a different day of the week. That will give her time to think about what happened too and I bet she at least takes you up on the free lunch part, otherwise she just isn't interested.

 

[pauligan]

Well, some people just don't like to take long lunches; I know I don't like to.. going to lunch with somebody can be 1-2 hours and for me, that's hours i'm not getting paid.

If she had things to get done, she had things to get done... whatever they were. And she was hungry so picked up some food... different from sitting down in a restaurant by far. I wouldn't read too much into it and maybe ask her to somewhere else instead that's not in the middle of the day; like maybe coffee or something in the evening. If she likes to share her kids, perhaps fishing with her kids or something...

I agree with the others; one more shot and that's it.

 

[Goose]

The real question to ask here is: WHAT ARE YOU DOING EDDIE, STALKING THIS WOMAN?

you just happen to see her out picking up lunch, or did you convieniently follow her throughout the day?

psycho

 

[The Perfect Fit]

Eddie,
Don'r be so cheap! haha Ask her out to dinner and a movie or something... Just kidding about the cheap thing..

I agree with the others. If lunch didn't work then try again.. Maybe this time try dinner if she can't aford to miss time during the day.... Being a single Mom may be exhausting on her for money and everything else???

 

[HazyMemory]

Eddie, I have dated in the past many single mothers. Don't sweat it. She probably was too busy to sit down for lunch. You said that you saw her picking up lunch. Simgle parents are really busy, well, most anyway.

 

[rerun]

Wow everyone make some great points....all of which could be true. One thing I would throw out if you really like the girl and do ask her out to dinner. Should he offer to pay for the sitter also? Money might be tight and although she wants to go out she might not be able to pay for a sitter.

 

[Shandog]

It's hard to "sneak out" for a quick lunch when you have kids because:

A. If you're taking the kids then you have to round them up, clean them up, get them in the car and get them there + you have to get yourself presentable as well - so that could be atleast a 1/2 hour there

B. If you're not taking the kids then you have to call a zillion people to come and babysit your kids while you go out which takes time, and $$ to pay someone to sit your children. I know what you'll say - well if you don't have to pay for lunch then that money can go to the sitter instead - WELL - sad but true single mom's don't have the discretionary extra income that single guys have so often coming up with 20 to pay a sitter cuts into grocery money when you could just stay home and eat what's in your fridge instead

NOW...if you saw her when she was on her lunch at work maybe she had some running around to do that needed to be done and it was easier for her to grab a quick lunch instead so she could get everything done so don't take it to heart.

Maybe she got ready for work in a pinch in the morning and wasn't feeling her personal best so that's why she said no too - when you first start seeing someone you want to have your hair, clothes, nails, etc perfect and maybe she wasn't feeling confident that day.

Again...give her another chance and don't take it to heart.

BTW - I'm a single mom and consider myself and my kids a GREAT catch bc not only is there one person for someone to love and be loved by - there's three people to love and be loved by

 

[freckles]

Eddie, I wouldn't take it personally. I'm a mom of two kids, I'm not single (and Bill helps out a lot), but I still eat lunch at my desk almost every day. I get to read the paper uninterrupted, make phone calls uninterrupted... In other words, my lunch time is usually my time. Maybe she feels the same way.

Ask if she wants to get coffee or something after work on the day the kids go to their Dad's house.

My hunch is she's interested, but the timing may not be quite right. I know a lot of single moms move slowly because of the kids. Could be guilt or issues with the Dad. Don't be offended if she doesn't introduce you to the kids right away, either. It's a lot easier for one person (her) to break up with you than three people (her and two kids).

Let her know you're interested. Hopefully, the time will be right and the two of you can get together.

 

[Aggressortom]

Eddie, you should have used your sister's Corvette to pick her up.

 

[puppetshow]

I haven't read all of the responses yet due to lack of time...but I have a BIG problem with your thinking that a single mom has less choices than any other woman.

I have 3 kids and I've never felt that way about dating.

I consider myself a great catch and the right man will accept me and my kids.

I WON'T date someone just because I was sooo lucky that he asked me out...........ya know becuase of all of those kids that I have. I'll date someone because I like them.

 

[MaryJane]

maybe the timing is off? or maybe she's not really all that interested.

as a single mother, i know if i am interested in someonw i'll find the time for them. i'll pay the sitter the $ so i can go out and have lunch/dinner/drinks with them.

if i'm not interested - it'll be 'i can't find a sitter' or ' my son is sick'.

 

[hammer]

Goose

Puppetshow

Eddie

Shandog

 

[ThreeCrabs]

Ask her out again, you cry baby~You are probably reading the situation all wrong......like everybody else said, she didn't have time, but had to eat herself real quick.

Make the plans before hand so you can tell her where you would like to take her. Have the restaurant, movie (maybe let her choose this one

), place to go dancing all picked out ahead so she'll know what a good time you are. Whirly ball, skating......a nice walk through Metro.

Good luck to you, dude!

and Puppetshow and Shandog....you are right about that!! More of you all to love!!! That is the spirit.

 

[surfergirlck]

QUOTE(puppetshow @ Jun 3 2004, 12:16 PM)

I haven't read all of the responses yet due to lack of time...but I have a BIG problem with your thinking that a single mom has less choices than any other woman.

I have 3 kids and I've never felt that way about dating.

I consider myself a great catch and the right man will accept me and my kids.

I WON'T date someone just because I was sooo lucky that he asked me out...........ya know becuase of all of those kids that I have. I'll date someone because I like them.
i think that if in the first place one thinks whoever's on the receiving end of one's invitation is 'soooooooo lucky' because of a situation one thinks the askee 'may be in' and that person gets angry with the askee's 'no thank you' then that person shouldn't even be asking in the first place. pity dates or dates where you ask someone out because (you think) they're more desperate than you is not healthy at all for either party: there's self-confidence and then there's ego.

eddie, you're a great, handsome, smart, hilarous-as-all-get-out kinda guy. give her a chance & ask her out because you like her, not because you think you can get her easier because of any 'situation' you think she may be in.

you rock, eddie!

we all have those days!

puppetshow! you go, girl!

 

[delsolcruz]

goose's comments were the best by far!!!!!

i agree with everyone else, ask her out a second time.

regarding kids....i'm personally not interested in dating anyone with kids under the age of 20, but that is me. it limits my pickins', but always has since i've found that AVAILABLE people past the age of 23 usually have children. i'm am so not interested in the kid thing. if i get an itch, i'll visit my nieces.