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I'm just sitting here thinking what is the rest of the world doing?? If you're married are you having fun, loiving that "married" life?? If you're married and have children are you having fun w/ the kids but "still" have that ever loving feeling? And if you're single are you out there being happy, getting laid all the time?
, content, hanging out w/friends, wondering when you're gonna find that "somebody"??

I'm just sitting here being married, listening to old school funk on tv (Black Betty, DD would have loved this), husband running around wiring up something, blowing up something...
, child 2 1/2 in bed, but he was soooooo cute muttering silly stuff before he went to bed, best friend left drinking some vino and here I am posting on a chat room board..... I'm just thinking are there people that think they are in a certain place and time in their lives that they are wondering is this normal??? What is normal and do you really care?? ARe you a conformist or a NONComformist probably is my point???
 

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I am very content and very happy with being marriedl. I do wish I had more friends to hang and chill with becuse
Goose is usually busy doing house stuff or at work. Alot of my friends live far so I only get to see them 1 or 2 times a month. Well we made new couple friends, bikinigirl and tango 7. Love them to death!!!!!!!!!!!! They are the coolest people ever, we just hit it off, if it wernt for LSCN I would have never meet them! I love u guys
 

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I was just thinking I didn't mean to leave out all other situations not the least to mention the "divorced" life!! Had lunch w/ a friend possibly going through that....contemplating is it a good thing or bad?
So I too wonder all those divorcees did you think it was worth it, are you glad you did it? was it for the best? Could you have tried harder to make it work and how do you feel today?? I know this may be too sensitive so I'm totally respect those that don't want to air their "dirty" or "hurtfull" laundry!! But when the statististics are 50+ marriages end in divorse you wonder what the hell is going on??
 

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my life is good. i'm happy to be where i am. i'm happy for the experiences i've had (good & bad), and i'm happy for my life and my friends and family. i'm in a good place as a single independant chick.
 

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Its scarry to know that the divorce rate is so high, not that my marriage is bad, but I have many friends that are now divorced, I met Goose at age 19 and I am now 28 , I am a completely different person than I was at 19 and just wonder how this love lasted so long, I am not sad or mad that I married my first love, but just wonder what I would be doing or who I would be with if I never meet him?
Its a blessing that I did meet him, b/c I am so in liove , I just hope we can bring children into this scarry world
 

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Wow Jewels, those are some heavy thoughts this close to bed time......


I know I am very happy with life, feel very lucky and have been blessed.
I think everyone, no matter what their situation, has nights (or days) that they wonder the same thing.
Whats normal? I don't know. But I don't think I would want to be normal.
 

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QUOTEWhats normal? I don't know. But I don't think I would want to be normal. I'm not trying to be too deep I think it's the wine...
I've ALWAYS conformed to the "not normal, non comformist" so I just salute all of those that say hey "I tried somehing, it didn't work, or I thought this, it wasn't what I thought it would be, so let's move on""
Love to all and to all a good night.....
 

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sometimes the longer two people are together the farther they grow apart. i have been with my wife now going on 13 years. we were married a little over 2 years ago. we both used to have so much fun together, she is younger than i am. i was already working she was not even out of high school when we met. we had a blast i convinced her to go back to school. she did and now has her bachelors degree in teaching. she is a teacher. with this she grew up, i never did. i know it sounds childish, but i hope i never do. now she yells at me like her 4th grade class. at the end of this summer we had a party a bumpers. she was not there. her god mother was. as i introduce her to most of the lscn people as amy's godmother 90% of the people said "who is that?" she could not believe it. my boat is not good enough for her to come out. she was on it one time this year. just for info i have a 1990 37 ft sea ray. so it is not like she does not have room or anything. she does not like to party at all and hate loud people. but that is what i am, for those of you that don't know me. i met a lot of great people here on lscn and others out of the lake or at gull island. i told her in the past to quit her job, we do not need the money. i told her that was the way to save our relationship. i thought i was doing the best by pushing her into school to make a better living for ourselves. i was wrong, and now i have to deal with it. and to top it all off, i have met a great person in the middle of all of this that has been there with me all through the good and bad. listens to all i have to complain about, deals with my attitudes. but i cannot give her back what she wants. and that is what hurts me the most. that is what my life is like.
 

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there is the problem that wasn't my wife...
 

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allways wish i had more money bigger boat stuff like that. been married 14 years together for 15 , like everyone else we have disagreemneynts but allways make up. dont jump each others bones like when were first married in our 20 s ,but have never looked back and wished i was somewhere else or with someone else.

besides who the heck else would put uip with me


you just to know when your happy,some people dont i think thats why divorce is so high.allways looking or thinking something could be better. i realize what i have and iamthankfull god blessed me with my wife ,job,and three dogs.
 

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QUOTE(fit chick @ Dec 4 2003, 11:02 PM)Well we made new couple friends, bikinigirl and tango 7. Love them to death!!!!!!!!!!!! They are the coolest people ever, we just hit it off, if it wernt for LSCN I would have never meet them! I love u guys

That's soooo sweet
. We love you guys too.
 

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a friend sent me this where or who wrote i dont know.

I AM THANKFUL FOR THE PARTNER WHO HOGS THE COVERS EVERY NIGHT,
BECAUSE HE/SHE IS NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

THE CHILD WHO IS NOT CLEANING HIS ROOM, BUT IS WATCHING TV,
BECAUSE THAT MEANS HE IS AT HOME AND NOT ON THE STREETS.

FOR THE TAXES THAT I PAY,
BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT I AM EMPLOYED.

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY,
BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM IN THE SUNSHINE.

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT AND NEED FIXING,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME.

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINTS I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT,
BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH.

FOR THE PARKING SPOT I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING AND THAT I HAVE
BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM WARM.

FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH THAT SINGS OFF KEY,
BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OF IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS,
BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT I AM ALIVE.

AND FINALLY.......

FOR TOO MUCH E-MAIL,
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE THINKING OF ME.

AND WHEN YOU THINK YOUR LIFE IS SO BAD READ THIS AGAIN. We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a
baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough
and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that
we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out
of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our
spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are
able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there's no
better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will
always be filled with challenges.

It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness
is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more
because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your
time with ... and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting ...
Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you get a divorce.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer..
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.

There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey,
not a destination. So work like you don't need money, love like you've never
been hurt,
and, dance like no one's watching.
 

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We've been married 27 years now.
We've drifted in and out of love more times than I can count. We have two children together, and I have one through a lapse in judgement.
But overall I am grateful for the opportunity to have her, quite comforatble with what I have, and blessed for the good graces of beautiful children who're turning out just fine.

This thread is ironic though. yesterday i was changing insurance agents and was waiting for the woman in front of me to finish her talk with the agent. I was perhaps 8-9 feet behind her, she was facing away. Her two childre, 5, 7 years old were sitting next to me. They were clean, but it was obvious they were'nt the Birmingham type. Mom was trying to get her insurance started back up, apparently it had been canceled. She only brought $80. It was obvious this wasn't going to make it. The agent cut her some slack and gave her until next week to bring $50 more.

I mention this because I was getting a "contact buzz"
from her breathe. She'd was facing away, the agent her at arms lenght. I must say, I truly hope that those kids grow up, in every sense of the word.

That monent in time made me realize how I nearly messed my family up with my bad behavior, and it also brought back how truly grateful I am my wife stood beside me on so many occasions where I deserved to be left standing alone.

oh well, I thank the original poster for this opportunity. hopefully some one will read it and take a good look at them selves and perhaps be grateful too.
 

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Um....Jewel's....Good Morning!!! Vino + Posting while tipsy=a thread like this.

Just kidding...thanks for hanging with me sister...laughed my arse off with you, Lil' Tree has got to think we are nuts!!! So funny, Friends, Ross dressed up as the Christmas Armidillo....Rachel coming in and saying "Looks like the Easter Bunnies Funeral"
Will and Grace, Will in that red vest and Jack pretending to give him the keys as he says "Tan Camry with the scratch on the side"
Scrubs...to many one liners in that one!

Life is good, friends rock, and as far as relationships go...always a mystery.
I Never contemplate my life much anymore, just take it one day at a time, that's all any of us can do!

Hope you have a great day Sista girl!!!! Luv ya lots!
 

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QUOTE(fit chick @ Dec 4 2003, 11:02 PM)I am very content and very happy with being marriedl. I do wish I had more friends to hang and chill with becuse
Goose is usually busy doing house stuff or at work. Alot of my friends live far so I only get to see them 1 or 2 times a month. Well we made new couple friends, bikinigirl and tango 7. Love them to death!!!!!!!!!!!! They are the coolest people ever, we just hit it off, if it wernt for LSCN I would have never meet them! I love u guys

AWWWWWWWWWWWWW


Sorry This is bikinigirl didn't realize tango was logged on.
 

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Pandora you have a wife????


Me? Well ya'll know my story... 30's, single, homeowner, excessively independent, perpetual seeker of what's next... happier now than ever... but wanting a relationship with somebody that makes my heart sing and my loins burn!!
hee hee...

always searching... never want to settle for what's right now... though I LOVE being in the moment, have all my life. I so want different experiences...

 

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I have been married 28 1/2 years.. I love my wife with all of my heart and have never cheated on her which is more then I can say for most of my buddies... We raised 3 children and a number of pets. My life is very special but you always wish for more... My grand-daughter is a blessing to us but also a blessing when she goes home..
The most meaningful words that I have to share are
"Never Ever Take Your Life For Granted"
Always be grateful for what you have....
 

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Married for 3 years been with him for a lifetime. Met in highschool, dumped him got back together 8 years later.

In between I met a man when I was 19. Fell in love got engaged, produced a wonderful, extraordinary child who is now almost 11. I was with him for 6 years. Planned a wedding, bought the dress, etc....A month before the wedding I called the whole thing off....somewhere along the line I fell out of love with him. He's a wonderful father and a great guy. I had changed over the years we were together he was still the guy I met at 19 but I wasn't 19 anymore. I wanted something else, just wasn't what I saw him wanting. My daughter has asked from time to time if I still love her dad....My answer is always the same....I will always love your father, because he gave me the best part of him.....her.
Fate stepped in a year after that and in walked Tango back into my life. We have a good life. We don't have a fancy car or even a home of our own. But we have each other and two beautiful, healthy, happy children.
 
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