This is PyrateJim, FullThrottle has done the other postings but cant sign on as herself from our computer. Network wont allow her for some reason.
Thanks for the input and suggestions. We dont get to see the child very often as the one we are concerned about is not allowed out of the house very often with the the little one. IF they do leave, they are kept on a very short tether and are constantly checked via cell phone as to their where abouts and time frames by the spouse suspected of being the abuser. We have been at functions/gatherings with this person when they have made comments of "I have to get going before "Sam" gets home becasue if I am not there with dinner ready I'm going to get yelled at" or in the middle of eating on a planned luncheon they will get a cell phone call, come bck into the room crying saying "I hve to go home now. "Sam" says I need to get home because I have spent enough time away and I have to cook him something to eat" or "I have to do such and such for him cause he wants me to do it."
We have even seen how he acts towards his child and his wife and they are more as trophies and show pieces for him to his friends then they are a real family. As you get to know him, it seems that he became a father becasue that is something a person in his position should do and not becasue he wanted to have a family. When the child is good, he will hold him" and "play with him, but the minute the little one starts to cry, he hands the little off to mom saying "here, you take him. I can't handle him when he is like this." We have even seen at a public gathering where the child was crying and wants to be held and has been pushed away saying "No you go and play. I'm talking with the adults now during adult time."
The one we suspect of being abused (physically/mentally/emotionally) used to be a very easy going, care free, fun to be with, happy person that would let just about anything role of their back like water on a duck. Now, they snap at the littlest thing, have almost no social life except for "his friends" are scared to go out without him cause of what he may say when she returns. She has limited contact with her family due to him and he will have even less and enforces that on her. On occassion she will come around to visit or show up late for something and then out of the clear blue, just break down and start crying about nothing and then leave because they feel so bad. Or, she will show up and her eyes will be all glassy and red, runny make up and sniffly. We even suspect that she may lie to him to get out of the house to get a break without him knowing the truth.
This is taking a toll on her family, their close friends, and every one who knows them. I have even heard that his family is starting to get on him for his behavior and the way he is acting.
Again, Thanks for the help.
